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Power, Surrender, and Intimacy in Chicago!

The Body Electric School presents PSI in Chicago March 24-26 2023 PSI is an exciting workshop that explores the concepts and skills of BDSM within the safe container of a Body Electric event. You will have the opportunity to: – Explore your body’s capacity for elevated levels of sensation – Refine your skills for creating

6 Tips for Anal Explorers

One of the questions I get frequently is how to enjoy anal sex. Most of us have had a bad experience with butt sex…especially starting out. You’re thinking about it right now, aren’t you? Here are some tips to ease you into ass play if you’re starting out.  If you’re more experienced, you might run

The Reality of Kink and Porn

I was a part of a wonderful discussion last night for The Leatherman’s Discussion Group.  It was fun walking down memory lane with Dirk Caber.  Click to watch the Video.

Lube 101

Lube 101 I was walking through the store today and was amazed to see an entire wall dedicated to personal lubricants.  Granted, I was in a sex shop in the heart of the Castro.  There were so many choices: silicone, flavored, scented, water, jo, anal, organic, for couples, warming, cooling, gel, creme, paste, hybrid, super

What’s So Great About Kinky Sex?

I was talking to someone the other day and he asked why kinky things like whips, ball stretchers, and hairy Daddies are so interesting when I’m having sex.  I’ve heard many general theories about kinkster headspace, but I’ve never thought about my own.  Here are several elements that make kinky play so satisfying to me on

KinkyCoach 2.0

Welcome to KinkyCoach 2.0! It’s hard to believe the original site went live over two years ago. I’m grateful for the challenges and opportunities that have come my way since then.  I’ve taught a number of workshops.  I’ve expanded my skills as a bodyworker, taken classes in Sacred Intimacy and Tantra, and sharpened my fetish skills. I continue to


Daddy Richard gave me the nickname “bulldog” a number of years ago.  He said I reminded him of one: solid, loyal, and headstrong. This summer during Sacred Intimate Training at Easton Mountain, I chose to embrace my namesake and celebrate its power. The name really does describe my build and personality. I’m tenacious once I